I’m so pleased you joined me today, a rather auspicious day as it’s my first blog post. As a wife, mother, employee (I work night shifts), homemaker and general try-to-do-it-all gal, you’re probably wondering why I want to blog.
Well, I could say it’s just because… because it’s a creative outlet. I was a fiction author for nearly 20 years, but as the years crept by and particularly as life threw hard stuff at me, the death of my mother, realizing I’m getting older (okay, so I know that’s inevitable but you get it.) it also made me think about what I wanted to achieve over the next 20-30 years or so that I have left, or how I wanted to live my life. With fiction writing and publishing there are deadlines, stress, always the thought of the next book etc., and I decided I didn’t want that stress any more. Oh, I still plod along and write a bit, but my butt no longer sits at the computer from 9-3 daily plodding away. I started thinking about life’s seasons and this particular season – empty nest – well for about six months only – till a daughter moved back home. Along with my eldest moving back home, I’ve a husband who has just retired, another daughter who has made us grandparents and all that involves, plus I want to get out and about, do things, see things. So this is my next season in life.
One of the things I absolutely love is decorating, and not with tons of dollars, but simply pottering about tweaking things, moving them around (cue family rolling their eyes at me – SHE’S AT IT AGAIN!). I love to try and organize and always say I’m a would be perfectionist who doesn’t quite get it right.
And that of course brings me to that other realisation. Okay, I turned 60 this year.
A rather daunting celebration as I wonder where the years have gone, but it also made me question things. As I said to my sister ‘you’d think at this age, we’d have our stuff (or crap) together by now.
Like weight wouldn’t bother me.
Like I’d be better organized, budgeter, fitter, healthier, dress better, and all those things that go through my mind as I look at my most recent wrinkle in the mirror.
But no it seems life is playing a trick on me, it doesn’t happen like that, or please don’t tell me I’m wrong and it’s only me that feels like the roller coaster is still full throttle.
But one thing that age does give us, is the understanding that ‘’so what?” So what if we’re a bit overweight, so what if we’re not very organized, so what if we went out with a hem held up by staples or cellotape, so darn what! It doesn’t matter.
What matters is that we enjoy life. That life has seasons and we realize we can make those things better – if we want to, and only if we want to. We should be happy being who we are, how we are. I’m not saying there’s always room for improvement, but what I am saying is that we don’t need to be perfect, because we ARE PERFECT just the way we are. Right now. Not when we’ve lost 20lbs, or colored all the gray in our hair. And speaking of which I’m letting all the color grow out, so right now I’m a motley red and gray combo. I’ve even had a compliment on it LOL.
So whatever your season of life, whether it’s in your 20s and starting out on your career, or in your 30s and playing wife, mom, single parent, along with the hectic career, or the kids have grown a bit – more independent now and then there’s the empty nest (a whole other blog post), right now, today is perfect, you are perfect. I am perfect – well mostly LOL. We may want change, and that’s okay, good even, but don’t think we’re any less than we are because we NEED to FIX SOMETHING.
I’ve decided to choose things that I’d like to change. To pick one at a time, but not put extra stress on myself. And to be kind. Love myself. You should too. We should all give ourselves a hug every day. Say kind words to ourselves, not belittling ones, and then embark on the journey WE want, doing the things WE WANT TO DO.
And that’s what this blog is going to be all about.
HOME, FAMILY, DECORATING, ORGANIZING, INTERESTING INTERVIEWS WITH WOMEN FROM ALL WALKS OF LIFE, AND JUST GOOD OLD LIFE STUFF.
Join me on the journey and subscribe to my email list, you’ll get a blog post twice a week, it’ll be a fun and adventurous ride .