WORDS TO MOTIVATE YOU WHEN IT’S OVERWHELMING

Words to motivate you when it's overwhelming

Hello everyone,

Morning all, how’s your week, spring has sprung here, and I’ve picked my first bunch of Freesias.  They smell so delicious.

Are you a planner? Whether it be a journal/planner, or simply a list maker.  Apparently when I was a child I was always making lists.  I don’t remember this, but as an adult of significant years, I’m still a list maker and it’s something i do event today, when i need words to motivate when it’s overwhelming.  Life is busy, sometimes like a circus and you feel like the mouse going round and round – and you just want to get off.  That’s when you need words to motivate you.

 

Words to motivate you when it's overwhelming

Do I finish everything on my list – heck no.  Do I care?  Well yes and no.  We women are known to overestimate what we can achieve and get done in any particular amount of time.  Come on, fess up.  Hold your hands up if your list is still huge never seems to decrease.

Sometimes it really does get overwhelming doesn’t it.  Never ending circle of to do, to do, to do……

But it seems to me we need something, anything to motivate us.  Something that says, stop, think, go on, you can do this.

These are some motivational images i found online

Words to motivate you when it's overwhelming

All great words and sayings.  And i can hear my OWN BUT!!!

Life’s journey over the past few years has been rather topsy turvy with losing my mother and then for myself suffering a bout of depression which is ongoing.  This depression annoys me.  I mean I don’t have time to be depressed, I don’t want to be depressed, I want to be joy-filled and excited by life and just well…LIVE. But what these few years has given me has been a time of deep introspection, about wondering about life (sounds like navel gazing I know), but really disseminating what I have in my life, what I do, and what I want my life to be like.  I suppose it’s a mini-mid-life crisis LOL

A few weeks ago I was wide awake and suddenly the word, ASPIRE came racing into the brain-cell fog I call my brain.

Aspire… to what?

Do what? Be what?

What did it mean?

The dictionary tells us this:

Aspire verb

  1. direct one’s hopes or ambitions towards achieving something.

“we never thought that we might aspire to those heights”

  1. literary – rise high; tower

“above the domes of loftiest mosques these pinnacles aspire”

 

So I thought on this a tad, and realized that for me ASPIRE is to dream of something, a goal, target, a wish be it just to get through the day without any aches and pains, or something loftier like move forward to a goal or challenge in life.

 

So big or small I have realized I want to ASPIRE.

 

Then the weirdest thing – another word popped into my mind – now given that this was 3 a.m.  and I am one of those awake/sleep/awake people whose husband is asleep before his head hits the pillow while I lie awake, my brain whizzing with ideas of projects.  Anyhow, words popped into my head as clear as day, surprisingly given that it was a cloudy moonless night.

 

How about the word INTENTION noun

  1. a thing intended; an aim or plan.

“she was full of good intentions”

Aspire   to a goal, a target.

You see the word INTENTION really fits in with Aspire.

Intention – aim/plan.

So I have to have a goal and a plan (to achieve that goal)

But … to me there was something missing.  Another word.  The word …. with   –  it may be the smallest of the 3 words, but I think it is the most important.

Withpreposition

  1. accompanied by (another person or thing).

“a nice steak with a bottle of red wine”

having or possessing (something).

“a flower-sprigged blouse with a white collar”

 

You see you can ASPIRE/have a goal, and you can have INTENTION/plan.  The WITH makes it happen.  BUT you need to the three words to make it work.  To Aspire WITH Intention.

Aspire WITHOUT Intention – nothing will happen.  But Aspire WITH Intention… then your goal with have an action/plan and together Aspire and Intention will happen.

Make sense?

To me it made absolutely perfect sense, and in fact has become my mantra.

Words to motivate you when it's overwhelming

I want to aspire, to achieve, I want to set goals, big and small and all sizes in between too.  I want to have goals that make my day run smoother, goals that tell me it’s time to relax and enjoy the day, life, my family, I want goals and dreams of getting my newest escapade or project off the ground (and completed).  For example, when I have blogged before it has been solely about decorating or organizing, but came to realize I wanted it to be more than that.  I want to inspire others (and myself along the way) to create a home they love and bring joy to their families and nourish them too.

But I need the WITH.

With Intention… with a plan, with a target, with a routine, with joy, and with happiness, with pleasure, with my family, with baby steps I will move toward by goals with intentional action. And you can too.

It really all made sense to me, and is in my little world rather profound and exciting.

So let’s motivate you.

Words to motivate you when it's overwhelming
Photo – thehomestylecollective.co.nz

Grab a pen and paper, heck why not even your prettiest notebook, and make this your book of aspirations with intentions. and let’s get writing.

So my question to you is –

What do you ASPIRE TO?

Is it to finish a project at home, to start a project, to save for a project?  Is it to clear out the garage once and for all, to create routines for yourself, to find time for yourself and your hobbies, or just to BE.

It can be anything, and everything.  That’s the beauty of it.

Come on, write those dreams down.  Maybe even write each dream on a separate page. Give them space to breathe and expand and blossom.

 

Next… take each aspiration, each goal, and break it down to baby steps, you know those steps that sometimes you think are insurmountable, but break them down to tiny, tiny steps so that your dream and aspiration doesn’t seem overwhelming.

You are creating words that motivate you when it’s overwhelming

Words to motivate you when it's overwhelming

Your aspiration may be something as simple as having a family board game night once a week in the winter months.  (it is a goal)

With Intention (with a plan, that aspiration will go ahead)

So where are you going to have your board game?

What games will you play?

Do you have the games?

Dig them out of storage, check you have all the pieces/parts of the game.

Do you need food/drinks etc.?

Set the date with family.

See… easy steps.  Your dream was to have a game night.  You planned (action/intention) what you would play, searched out the games, planned the food, and hey you could even send fun invites to the family and surprise them.

 

You have DREAMED IT, PLANNED IT

You ASIRED WITH INTENTION

YOU HAD A GOAL, A PLAN AND WITH THOSE TWO WORDS YOUR ASPIRATION WAS SUCCESSFUL.

 

Or it could be something of bigger proportions, clearing out that tip of a garage – (yes I absolutely have one of those right at this moment, a dream of a clean space is one of my aspirations with which I need definite intention.

 

So dream of how you want that garage to look – that’s your aspiration

Now write down those baby steps – sort stuff into toss/donate/keep/sell piles etc.  You know the drill and  with INTENTION, i.e. taking the steps necessary you can get it done.

 

Well done, you’ve aspired and created a list of intention/action and now you can go forth and fulfil that dream.

What do you aspire to?  Big or small, whatever it is, it’s worth doing, worth aspiring with intention.

Let me know in the comments below and how you’re breaking the task down.

 

Wishing you a wonderful day and week with whatever plans you have and that they bring you joy.

 

Happy days

Jane

 

 

 

 

 

NEED A QUICK AND EASY DESSERT RECIPE

Hello friends,

How’s the week going.  All good down here, spring has sprung, just wish the rain would stop.  But being inside because of the weather, sometimes you get struck with cabin fever, like I did last weekend.  Then we had unexpected visitors and hey presto, I needed a quick and easy desert recipe.

 

Quick and easy is important in cooking.  You know over the next few months there’s lots of opportunity for entertaining.  Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Year, and just those impromptu visits from friends, when you have to throw a meal together in a hurry using what you have.

However, I try not to be a slave to the kitchen.  Standing over a hot stove cooking for hours is not my idea of fun.  Nope, i’d never be a Masterchef cook.

Actually do you find you’re just OVER COOKING.  I mean I’ve been married nearly 35 years and at times I am completely over coming up with ideas for meals that everyone will eat without protest!  Mind you, that is where meal planning in advance comes in, because it really does take the brain power required out of the equation at the end of the day when you’re tired.  Quick and easy is best!

My father was one of those cooks. He’d come up with all sorts of things, experiment. Mind you he wasn’t great on cleaning up afterwards – after he’d used just about every pot and pan in the kitchen – and we didn’t have a dishwasher.  Now with our friends arriving, i needed a simple and easy dessert recipe, using what I had in the freezer and pantry.

 

A quick and easy desert recipe

 

Dessert for us is normally a bit of fruit and yogurt, however I wanted something different. I scoured the cupboards and came up with a tin of peaches in light syrup, and in the freezer I had a few sheets of puff pastry – that nicely rolled out stuff. Who wants to be rolling pastry!  Too much like hard work!

I had the idea I’d like to cook some sort of fruit wraps in the pastry, but decided I would add a few other ingredients – jam and cream cheese.

So here’s the recipe.

Jane’s Fruit Wraps  – how does that sound for a made up name!!!)

Need a quick and easy desert recipe

Ready rolled puff pastry – 1 sheet per person

2 x 400g tin of sliced peaches – drained and chopped roughly

2-3 Tbsp. of any type of berry jam (or you could use marmalade for a different taste)

2-3 Tbsp. of cream cheese (optional)

Instructions

Turn oven onto bake/180deg C

Take out pastry sheets and let them defrost naturally

Prepare baking tray with a sheet of baking paper

Drain and chop the peaches

Need a quick and easy desert recipe

Add 2-3 tablespoons of jam and cream cheese (if using)

Mix together lightly. Don’t worry if cream cheese doesn’t break up much – just a little is enough)

 

Need a quick and easy desert recipe

 

Need a quick and easy desert recipe

Divide evenly between the sheets of pastry.

Fold corners in, overlapping and pressing down so that there are no gaps.

 

Tuck all edges and press so that nothing can escape.

Need a quick and easy desert recipe

Bake till pastry cooked/lightly brown – about 20-25 minutes. Do check the pastry is cooked at the bottom, as I had to add a few extra minutes

A quick and easy desert recipe

Can be served with ice cream or yogurt if you’re trying to be extra healthy!

 

My husband tells me they were delicious.  You may be wondering why I don’t know how they tasted.  Well, I left the second one on the bench to cool – silly me, because the dogs and cat thought the second one was delicious too!

I hope you make these, and do experiment with different fruit and jams.  The moral of this recipe is that you can really make anything out of anything LOL.  You don’t necessarily need recipes, all you need to do is have a dig around in your pantry and freezer and see what you’ve got.  Play around with flavors and ideas until you come up with something.  That’s half the fun…the other half is eating it – unless your pets get to it first.

One thing i might do differently next time, bearing in mind this post is about using what you have on hand, but I might use a peach or apricot jam rather than berry.

Some ideas for you:

 

A dip in a hurry – Mix plain unsweetened Greek yogurt with a drained tin of tuna/salmon and add a tablespoon or two of Thai sweet chilli sauce, or alternatively a large spoon of horseradish sauce – yum.

Homemade Pita chips – use those garlic or olive flavoured pita bread pockets. Toast them then break up into sizes to use with dip – or alternatively, cut with kitchen scissors then fry in a lightly sprayed fry pan.

Unexpected guests like the other day can cause mini-panic stations, and so over the years I have compiled a few dishes that I’m comfortable with cooking or have at least tried once before.  I however, do tend to scour recipe books or recipes I’ve collected, and then again there’s the good old internet and Pinterest.

Here are some tips so that you’re prepared next time when visitors arrive out of the blue?

Tip – Do you know if any of your guests has allergies, or food dislikes?  Make sure to check on this.  No use trying to kill your guests.

Tip – ring in your kids!  Bribe if necessary for them to give the house a quick vacuum, a swish and a swipe around the toilet/bathroom. Make sure clean hand towels and soap are out and of course toilet paper – imagine a guest in the bathroom and oops… embarrassing LOL

Tip – thinking ahead of times when you might entertain, if you see nice white dishes in the stores on sale, grab them. White dishes always go well with food, and are easy to decorate around and match with other patterns/colors etc.

Tip – have on hand in an ‘entertaining box’ which you can restock as required.  Chips, jars of olives and pickles, sauces, tooth picks and paper napkins, seasonings for various dips, and maybe in the freezer a spare bag of ice.

Remember simple is best.

Happy cooking

Jane xxx

 

 

DO YOU THINK YOU COULD BE A MINIMALIST?

Hello friends,

It’s another day, another week, and my list of things to do is a mile long.  One of which is considering if think I could be a minimalist.

Do you think you could be a minimalist

What about you?  Could you be a minimalist?

But wait, you might already be living the minimalist life already and not know it.

I know that sounds weird, but minimalism for one person could be cluttered for another.

Are you this?

Do you think you could be a minimalist

Or this?

Do you think you could be a minimalist

Neither image is correct, because what is minimal to one is not to another.

So what is Minimalism?  With reference to our environment the dictionary explains it as –

noun: minimalism

deliberate lack of decoration or adornment in style or design.

“his living room was a testament to minimalism”

 

For example, let’s look at these pictures of flowers.

Do you think you could be a minimalist   Do you think you could be a minimalist

Do you think you could be a minimalist

Do you think you could be a minimalist

 

They’re all beautiful in their own way. Colorful, simple, rich in design.  But is one more beautiful than the other to you?  Why is that?  How does it appeal to your soul, your imagery, and what about it brings you joy?

It could be that it’s a simple style – all one type of bloom, or simply one bloom.  It could be that it’s a riot of color and creativity, a wild scattering of nature, or that it simply appeals to you, deep down.

So look at them, which one tugs at your heart strings the most?  And why?

Because of that simplicity. Because of that riot of color, or because it’s a vibrant mass and you could imagine having vases just like this all around your house, not just in one place. The analogy of ‘how much’ one vase of flower/s appeals to you than another, is the key to what your ‘level’ of minimalism is.  And hey presto, you’re already a minimalist.

Perhaps you decide you like a one color effect, not necessarily a single bloom, but all the same color – monochromatic.

In design that could look like this.

Do you think you could be a minimalist

It’s not bland, not merely black and white, it’s vibrant, but it’s still minimal in that it’s based on one color – blue.  So that’s your vase of tulips above.

Then you might prefer a more boho or eclectic look

Do you think you could be a minimalist

With the orange and blues, and the wood tones, this room is more vital. It’s still minimal, but has that cozy feeling and not bland or sterile that often is associated with minimalism.  This is your posy of lillies, roses and gerberas.

So what does minimalism mean to you, and how does it look and feel?

First, let’s work out your reasons – your want and why?

Why is the need to minimalize suddenly rearing its head in your life?

There could be a multitude of reasons such as – Life is busy and you just want to calm it down visually

You can’t find stuff – you simply have TOO MUCH STUFF

You can make money from selling your stuff.  Not a bad way to downsize and minimalize

You can’t stop buying STUFF. How much stuff do you actually need?  If you love decorating your home, it’s hard not to buy the next best thing in décor, a tray, an orb, faux plants.  But at worst they are dust collectors and gobble your money up because let’s face it there’s always the next best thing around the corner.  Besides if you’re always buying stuff, how do you really get to know what your décor style really is.  This of course could attest to the clothes in our wardrobes too.

Surrounding ourselves with STUFF is often overwhelming.  Now I’m not necessarily talking about hoarder type accumulation, but if you can’t see a clear surface anywhere how can your brain/your visual sight ever get a chance to rest. There’s no visual blank space, (that’s not to say my brain doesn’t have blank spaces at times LOL)

Or at different seasons in our lives we inherit ‘stuff’ from family members, sometimes we can’t say no without offending them and so hold on to that ugly hutch we really have no place for, or it really is an inheritance when a family member passes away and you just don’t know where to put everything…until finally IT ALL GETS TOOOOOO MUCH.

So…okay, you want to get rid of stuff.  You want to try that minimalism thing.

 

But how do I know what my minimal level is?  How much is too much?  How much is too little?

Here are some ways to find out.

  • You could remove everything from the room, only putting back in things you love – slowly – a sofa/chair, a cabinet, a piece of art work. If you don’t love it, don’t keep it.

Do you think you could be a minimalist

  • Remove all the accessories and let the room breathe for a while. See if you like the ‘empty’ space, and only bring back a few things.
  • Rotate your accessories either seasonally or on a whim.

By removing everything and only putting in what you love, this process allows you time to appreciate what you have, and need, ONLY!

Another simple way of working out what you want to keep is to ask yourself some questions.

Do I like it?  

         Does it work?

Does it fit my style?

Does it fit my bank account?

Does it fit the life season I’m at right now?

 

If you like it, then it’s an obvious keeper

If it works and is necessary, again a keeper, but if it doesn’t fit your style – then donate/toss/give away/sell.

But wait, what if I don’t know my style!  Then I say refer back to the above, and empty that room and try and see if it goes with how you want your room to look.

And again if you have no idea about what you want a room/your home too look like, then hit Pinterest and start saving anything that appeals to you, that makes you say WOW. Slowly, over time you’ll get a clearer picture of what appeals to you.  It may be color, form, function, wood, metals, or a particular décor style, shabby chic, farmhouse, modern.  This knowledge will assist you in deciding what stays and what doesn’t.

Then there are the seasons of life.

At different stages in our lives, we have different needs.  20s/30s/ or so we have need for children’s toys, paraphernalia, which take up lots of room in the house.

As we age and our children too, it may be more like sports gear, camping equipment etc. and the soft toys are side-lined.

Do you think you could be a minimalist

Do you have to keep them all?  I say no!

But they’re my children’s precious things, my memories are tied up with that cute rabbit with one ear, so you keep the rabbit and everything else because they remind you of those wonderful days.  Those days, however, are stored in your memory, you don’t need the stuff to make you remember those precious moments.  How about you put half a dozen away in labelled storage and the rest you donate to a family refuge or other charity.  Or perhaps you keep a few for future grandchildren, but that’s all.  A few, not the mound that’s taking over the spare room right now.  You know it does.  You can’t ignore it, the room is bursting, and shutting the door on it doesn’t make it go away –  even though you wish it would.  Who hasn’t thought that a time or too (I see you nod your head) and I agree, been there, done that!

In our later years (okay so I’m saying kinda 60 upwards) you find that all of a sudden you want to get rid of the very things that ten years ago you thought you had to have.  Those cooking books you never look at, instead you go online, the boxes and boxes of crafts you don’t have time for, or all the books you’ve read, but kept, thinking you might read them again, but never have.

Time to get real with yourself.  Do you really want all this clutter?

You have to be honest with yourself, and unfortunately sometimes being honest like this is a tad painful and scary.  But this is how you get to decide what your ‘minimalism’ looks like.  It’s your choice.

You may decide to keep all those cushions whereas someone else can’t stand having anything on the sofa.  I’m a cushion gal, but Hubby just tosses them on the floor.  Sacrilege, I know.

You may get rid of all the vases or other ornaments in the china cabinet, and just use it to display a few artful pieces that speak joy to you.

So…what is your level of minimalism? Do you think you could be a minimalist?

Give it some time to percolate, and if uncertain, store an item, for a few weeks or months.  Do let me know in the comments below what your level of minimalism.  What can you toss, what can’t you give away ever?

Happy days

Jane

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HOW TO CREATE YOUR OWN MINI-SANCTUARY

Hello everyone,

I’m so glad you’re joining me on this journey.  How has your week been?  I bet, like most of us, you find yourselves rushing from chore to chore, job, to school, to work, to the gym (okay so maybe I don’t rush to the gym!!), but you get the idea.  We’re busy. We don’t have time for EVERYTHING. And most of all we often find we DON’T have time for ourselves.

 

Busy Moms

 

If this sounds like your life, then it’s time to create your own mini-sanctuary.

THE WHY WHAT AND WHERE

But first you need to determine the why, the what, the how and the when, so read on and let me help you work that exactly out.

 

The Why

Why do u need a mini-sanctuary?  And what does the word sanctuary mean to you?

Is it a place of respite, a place to recharge and regenerate body and soul? Quiet time.   A time that is just for you.

Solitude and Sanctuary

It is important to have a place that gives you a moment to be inspired, that gives you sustenance physically and mentally amidst the chaos of life. You, me and every other woman has commitments.  Family, children, parents who may be ageing, demands from work or even if you are retired, there are new questions.  What now? Sometimes no matter what stage of a life season we are at, we need a place of quiet from the ever present noise of life and our and our electronic world to have time to simply BE.

 

Have you ever noticed that during the day you have the tv sound up higher than at night?  At night everything seems quieter, no electrical noise, the clatter and chatter of disruptions and interruptions. And yet, by the end of the day, of doing our tasks for everyone around us, we often don’t have time to just sit and think, or what I call JUST BEING.  A quiet time to contemplate.

If you live with any of these happenings and let’s be real here, we all do in some way or another, then having a place of sanctuary and a special moment in time just for you alone, is a good enough reason in the first place.

 

The What?

First you need to evaluate what a mini-sanctuary mean to you? Not simply the idea of what it is, but what the actual physical-ness (if that is a word) does a mini-sanctuary look like to you?  This can only be answered by you.  But first you have to ask yourself a few questions.

What is it I need my sanctuary to give me?

Is it quiet time?

Is it a place to read?

A place to commune with nature? To be able to go for a walk, or exercise.

A place to just be, to luxuriate in quiet time?  Does silence equal bliss to you?

quiet time, a sanctuary

 

Many years ago I was asked the question what did I really want to do that was just for ME?  The question actually took me by surprise, I’d never thought about me time, something just for me, and didn’t really even know what I would want.  For a few moments I simply sat and thought about it.  What did I really want, what would recharge me and I would bring me joy?  Just for me.  Alone.  With no one else to consider.  Now I’m not saying we ignore our family/friends/demands on us as mothers/wives/partners, but maybe just for 15 minutes a day we can do something just for US.  A rather liberating thought, isn’t it?  Does thinking it make you feel guilty?

 

Time to get over that.  In the scheme of things, really, you know that 15 minutes a day isn’t much.  A few moments. That’s all.

Finally, after deliberation, I spoke up.  A bath I said, I want a bubble bath.

relaxing time, a bubble bath, a sanctuary

Well as soon as I was out of that appointment I got myself to the supermarket to buy some bubbles.  No expensive bubble bath, but it did smell good.  The cost of what I purchased wasn’t important.  What the deal was that I was doing something just for me…. And boy did I Iove that bubble bath, in fact I had one every night, a couple of tea light candles, bubbles, the door shut to household noise with the instructions that no one was to enter unless they were bleeding to death.

 

The morale here is that sometimes you have to think hard about what you want just for you.  It’s not easy. We’re used to putting ourselves last on the list of importance, because often as women we get out of practice of thinking about US.  It’s something I wonder is actually inbuilt in us.  Everyone else first. Ourselves lasts.  But don’t give up and think you don’t matter because you do, you are the glue to those around you.

So what would you like to do?

Have a reading spot

reading time, quiet time, sanctuary

Sit in the sun /shade outside and just listen to the birds

relaxing, sanctuary

Have that bubble bath like me.  Make it a spa time. Relax in luxurious fragrance and bubbles.

bubble bath, sanctuary, quiet time

Go a walk along the beach/Forrest path.

walking, beaches, quiet time, sanctuary

It may take you a few days to come up with some ideas.  We’re not used to thinking about alone time.  So every time you think of something you may like to do, don’t ignore it, write it down, no matter how silly it might sound. Put pen to paper.  Then, when you can get that first 15 minutes alone, re-read your list of ideas.  Evaluate them, maybe giving them a score of 1-10 – ten being the most important to you.

Silence.   Sun     Relaxing      Reading

Having a home made facial, giving yourself a manicure/pedicure.

Sewing even, or a craft piece you can pick up and put down easily.

Give every idea a value, and slowly you will see which type of ‘relaxing time’ is important to you.

 

Now we get to the next step.

 

The Where?

Once you have chosen what you want to do, the next is to decide where.

 

A reading spot

Create a little corner that’s just for you.  A comfy chair, a good reading light, maybe a cushion and pretty throw just for you.   In your bedroom, a sunroom, a corner of the home office, out on the deck/patio in this chair. A place that brings you serenity and is relaxing.  Tell the family this is your special place and when they see you in this chair then it’s your quiet time.  It may take them a little to figure this one out – you know the repeat, repeat process until they get it.  It doesn’t mean you’re not available, just not right this minute.  It’s like the Mum I need you.  Mum. Mum, they say whenever you’re on the phone.  My practice with that was to hold up my hand to them, they knew then I was aware they needed me, and if they waited a few moments I would give them all the attention in the world.  I wasn’t ignoring them, but was not available right at that minute.

 

A Bubble Bath

relax, bubble bath, sanctuary

Create a spa-like sanctuary in your bathroom.  Beautiful candles, dim the bathroom light or turn it off, add those sweet smelling bubbles to the bath. A little hint here.  You may not want to leave out all your beauties for the entire family. This is your treat, so store it in a decorative box that you bring out for your special time, as you make it your ‘event’.  Some other ideas for your spa.  A loofa, maybe even a face mask, music, and even some wine to go with those bubbles in the bath.  Then the ultimate wrap yourself up in softly luxurious bath towels as you get out, massaging fragranced bath lotion all over.

 

Nature and Quiet Time

solitude, quiet time, sanctuary, nature, walking

Actually if you really listen, nature isn’t that quiet.  It’s full of noise, animals, the wind, rain, the click click click of insects.

But if sitting or walking in nature is your idea of bliss, then create a little piece of native solitude outside.  A chair, maybe a cushion and throw (yes you can tell I’m a cushion gal), a pair of sunglasses and a coffee or cold drink, heck why not a glass of chilled wine.  Now sit and listen.  Let nature wash through you, revive you and reveal its wonder, because it is such a beautiful thing.  Can you hear the wind rustling through the leaves, the grass, the bees buzzing to garner the nectar from the flowers?  Relax and enjoy this moment because it’s just for you.

 

I’ll leave you with a few sayings about relaxation:

 

“Sometimes the most productive thing you can do is relax.”   Mark Black

 

“The time to relax is when you don’t have time for it.”    Jim Goodwin

 

“Relaxation means releasing all concern and tension and letting the natural order of life flow through one’s being.”   Donald Curtis

 

“Learn to relax. Your body is precious, as it houses your mind and spirit. Inner peace begins with a relaxed body.”   Norman Vincent Peale

 

“Put duties aside at least an hour before bed and perform soothing, quiet activities that will help you relax.”   Dianne Hales

 

“Tension is who you think you should be. Relaxation is who you are.”    Chinese Proverb

 

“Taking time out each day to relax and renew is essential to living well.”   Judith Hanson Lasater

 

And this one reiterates exactly why YOU should create that mini-sanctuary and moment each day, just for you.

 

“When was the last time you spent a quiet moment just doing nothing – just sitting and looking at the sea, or watching the wind blowing the tree limbs, or waves rippling on a pond, a flickering candle or children playing in the park?”     Ralph Marston

 

 

Remember, be kind to YOU and make time for that mini-sanctuary – but most importantly, make sure you use it because you deserve it.

I would love to hear about your sanctuary spot.  What is it? Where is it?  How did you create it?  Comment below.

 

Happy days

Jane xxx

PS: thanks to my daughter Yana for being my photo model!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

WHY I WANT TO BLOG

Life Seasons, Blog Journey

Hello there,   

 

 

 

 

I’m so pleased you joined me today, a rather auspicious day as it’s my first blog post.  As a wife, mother, employee (I work night shifts), homemaker and general try-to-do-it-all gal, you’re probably wondering why I want to blog.

Life Seasons, Blog Journey

Well, I could say it’s just because… because it’s a creative outlet.  I was a fiction author for nearly 20 years, but as the years crept by and particularly as life threw hard stuff at me, the death of my mother, realizing I’m getting older (okay, so I know that’s inevitable but you get it.) it also made me think about what I wanted to achieve over the next 20-30 years or so that I have left, or how I wanted to live my life.  With fiction writing and publishing there are deadlines, stress, always the thought of the next book etc., and I decided I didn’t want that stress any more. Oh, I still plod along and write a bit, but my butt no longer sits at the computer from 9-3 daily plodding away.  I started thinking about life’s seasons and this particular season – empty nest – well for about six months only – till a daughter moved back home.  Along with my eldest moving back home, I’ve a husband who has just retired, another daughter who has made us grandparents and all that involves, plus I want to get out and about, do things, see things.  So this is my next season in life.

One of the things I absolutely love is decorating, and not with tons of dollars, but simply pottering about tweaking things, moving them around (cue family rolling their eyes at me – SHE’S AT IT AGAIN!).  I love to try and organize and always say I’m a would be perfectionist who doesn’t quite get it right.

And that of course brings me to that other realisation.  Okay, I turned 60 this year.

A rather daunting celebration as I wonder where the years have gone, but it also made me question things.  As I said to my sister ‘you’d think at this age, we’d have our stuff (or crap) together by now.

Like weight wouldn’t bother me.

Like I’d be better organized, budgeter, fitter, healthier, dress better, and all those things that go through my mind as I look at my most recent wrinkle in the mirror.

But no it seems life is playing a trick on me, it doesn’t happen like that, or please don’t tell me I’m wrong and it’s only me that feels like the roller coaster is still full throttle.

But one thing that age does give us, is the understanding that ‘’so what?”  So what if we’re a bit overweight, so what if we’re not very organized, so what if we went out with a hem held up by staples or cellotape, so darn what!  It doesn’t matter.

Life Seasons, Adventures,

What matters is that we enjoy life.  That life has seasons and we realize we can make those things better – if we want to, and only if we want to.  We should be happy being who we are, how we are.  I’m not saying there’s always room for improvement, but what I am saying is that we don’t need to be perfect, because we ARE PERFECT just the way we are.  Right now.  Not when we’ve lost 20lbs, or colored all the gray in our hair.  And speaking of which I’m letting all the color grow out, so right now I’m a motley red and gray combo.  I’ve even had a compliment on it LOL.

So whatever your season of life, whether it’s in your 20s and starting out on your career, or in your 30s and playing wife, mom, single parent, along with the hectic career, or the kids have grown a bit – more independent now and then there’s the empty nest (a whole other blog post), right now, today is perfect, you are perfect. I am perfect – well mostly LOL.  We may want change, and that’s okay, good even, but don’t think we’re any less than we are because we NEED to FIX SOMETHING.

I’ve decided to choose things that I’d like to change.  To pick one at a time, but not put extra stress on myself. And to be kind. Love myself.  You should too.  We should all give ourselves a hug every day.  Say kind words to ourselves, not belittling ones, and then embark on the journey WE want, doing the things WE WANT TO DO.

And that’s what this blog is going to be all about.

HOME, FAMILY, DECORATING, ORGANIZING, INTERESTING INTERVIEWS WITH WOMEN FROM ALL WALKS OF LIFE, AND JUST GOOD OLD LIFE STUFF.

Join me on the journey and subscribe to my email list, you’ll get a blog post twice a week, it’ll be a fun and adventurous ride .

 

Happy days

Jane

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COMING THIS WEEK

Yes, it’s finally time to go live.

Coming this week is the first posts for this blog adventure of mine.  Please join me, and let’s get adventuring and living life’s seasons together

 

 

See you Tuesday!

Jane.