HOW TO HAVE A SIMPLY CLEAN HOME WITHOUT THE GUILT

Hello there,

How to have a Simply Clean home without the guilt

How are you all.  Is the week going according to plan?  In all likelihood, if it is anything like my weeks, the answer to that would be a big loud NO.

Is this you?

How to have a simply clean house without the guilt

Why is it that we chase the ever illusive routine, the perfect system whether it be cards, lists, computerised or paper, something that will make our life just flow perfectly, without hitches.  Meals would be on the table on time, and of course nutritious and everyone would comment on a lovely meal.  Then there is the laundry, it’s done, dried, folded and put away, plus all the ironing done, the floors are mopped and vacuumed – daily I might add – bills are paid on time, and the paperwork filed and not left to linger around the kitchen counter for several days…um, okay week.

You’ve been to the gym three times this week, and of course the dusting, polishing, is done, the kitchen is spotless, the freezer foods all labelled and no smelly rotting food would dare dawdle in your refrigerator.  Oh, yes,  life of routines, and list and …. Is perfect…. or NOT. Oh and don’t forget those sparkling clean windows are bereft of paw prints and sticky finger prints.

Now I am the first to acknowledge that THIS IS NOT MY LIFE. Oh, I wish it was, I am you see a would be perfectionist, but somehow I don’t quite hit the grade.  Which is rather frustrating, because really, I really do want to be a perfect housekeeper. I just don’t seem to have the energy to be perfect.

Photo – cleanmama.net

 

But then who would actually notice.  Not the teen who is in one door and out the other with a scrap of left over pizza in their hand, a few anchovies dropped on the floor in their wake.

And I don’t think the Hubby would notice as he finishes his meal and falls asleep on the sofa.

I look around at all the perfectness.  The shiny furniture and floors, the spotless kitchen, bathrooms the beautifully scented and clean laundry.How to have a SIMPLY CLEAN home without the guilt

Who actually notices?  And who actually cares?

Actually… I care and that should be enough – it is enough!  We don’t necessarily clean house for anyone else, even though they may live there.  We do it because – well it could be for a variety of reasons.  It could be to impress others, but we can already see family aren’t quite impressed.

What about our friends?

Well unless they live at your house 24/7 and see it so spotless all the time, they don’t count because as sure as it rains in spring, friends turn up at your doorstep when the house is in chaos.

So really the only person you are doing this for is YOURSELF.  Yes, you may like to have it clean for your children, clean clothes, good meals, house spick and span, but when it comes down to it, doing the house work, however often, is gracing your home – for you – and yes your family also.

It’s about personal pride.  I’m not saying it has to be perfect – though that darn little OCD part of me WOULD LOVE it to be perfect – but I know in reality that aint gonna happen.

So if you want to take pride in your home, in yourself and your environment how do we get it all done.
Reality is we probably don’t.  For years I thought I was a failure if I didn’t get it done, and so mostly (and this is really sad) I would go around feeling like a failure because I hadn’t done xyz on the allocated day/time/week etc. In my head “other people’s” houses were perfect, and I was the only one that failed.

My excuse was, life would get in the way which was really frustrating because I didn’t want it to. I mean I had a house to make perfect, towels to fluff and curtains to vacuum – just because it said so on my list.

But…. Travel down through the years and I have kind of a routine, it works sometimes.

How to have a SIMPLY CLEAN home without the guilt
Photo – CleanMama.net

Then I came upon SIMPLY CLEAN by Becky Rapinchuk, founder of Clean Mamma and finally the guilt dissolved.

This book is about days and weeks and months and routines.  So what makes it different from other household chore/routine books – and believe you me I have read a few (actually lots and lots) this book in the way Becky has written it has given me permission to get rid of the guilt!  And that my friends is HUGE!

Simply Clean is a book of routines and systems but it’s – well –  simple.  A few regular chores each day, plus a weekly chore per day, AND you get Friday to catch up and Sunday to play.

 

What could be better than that?  Time off, time to breathe, time to say okay, I’ll just get so and so finished now.  This book took away my guilt for not being perfect and for that alone I love this book to bits.

This book really ‘got to me’.  Becky was ‘speaking’ to me.  Her writing style is engaging, relaxing and just darn friendly.  I felt like she understood me.  And for that I was grateful.

Is my house perfect yet?

Nope, and it probably never will be.

Do I still hope and pray on bended knees wishing it would be perfect– yes of course, but I know the truth.  People live here, dogs live here.  Perfect doesn’t exist here.  But the routines in this book gives me focus, and at the same time allows me to let life get in the way as it invariably does.

So for my review of Simply Clean I would give it an absolute 5 Stars.

Simply Clean is available at Amazon

 

Happy days – and reading

Jane

 

 

 

 

WORDS TO MOTIVATE YOU WHEN IT’S OVERWHELMING

Words to motivate you when it's overwhelming

Hello everyone,

Morning all, how’s your week, spring has sprung here, and I’ve picked my first bunch of Freesias.  They smell so delicious.

Are you a planner? Whether it be a journal/planner, or simply a list maker.  Apparently when I was a child I was always making lists.  I don’t remember this, but as an adult of significant years, I’m still a list maker and it’s something i do event today, when i need words to motivate when it’s overwhelming.  Life is busy, sometimes like a circus and you feel like the mouse going round and round – and you just want to get off.  That’s when you need words to motivate you.

 

Words to motivate you when it's overwhelming

Do I finish everything on my list – heck no.  Do I care?  Well yes and no.  We women are known to overestimate what we can achieve and get done in any particular amount of time.  Come on, fess up.  Hold your hands up if your list is still huge never seems to decrease.

Sometimes it really does get overwhelming doesn’t it.  Never ending circle of to do, to do, to do……

But it seems to me we need something, anything to motivate us.  Something that says, stop, think, go on, you can do this.

These are some motivational images i found online

Words to motivate you when it's overwhelming

All great words and sayings.  And i can hear my OWN BUT!!!

Life’s journey over the past few years has been rather topsy turvy with losing my mother and then for myself suffering a bout of depression which is ongoing.  This depression annoys me.  I mean I don’t have time to be depressed, I don’t want to be depressed, I want to be joy-filled and excited by life and just well…LIVE. But what these few years has given me has been a time of deep introspection, about wondering about life (sounds like navel gazing I know), but really disseminating what I have in my life, what I do, and what I want my life to be like.  I suppose it’s a mini-mid-life crisis LOL

A few weeks ago I was wide awake and suddenly the word, ASPIRE came racing into the brain-cell fog I call my brain.

Aspire… to what?

Do what? Be what?

What did it mean?

The dictionary tells us this:

Aspire verb

  1. direct one’s hopes or ambitions towards achieving something.

“we never thought that we might aspire to those heights”

  1. literary – rise high; tower

“above the domes of loftiest mosques these pinnacles aspire”

 

So I thought on this a tad, and realized that for me ASPIRE is to dream of something, a goal, target, a wish be it just to get through the day without any aches and pains, or something loftier like move forward to a goal or challenge in life.

 

So big or small I have realized I want to ASPIRE.

 

Then the weirdest thing – another word popped into my mind – now given that this was 3 a.m.  and I am one of those awake/sleep/awake people whose husband is asleep before his head hits the pillow while I lie awake, my brain whizzing with ideas of projects.  Anyhow, words popped into my head as clear as day, surprisingly given that it was a cloudy moonless night.

 

How about the word INTENTION noun

  1. a thing intended; an aim or plan.

“she was full of good intentions”

Aspire   to a goal, a target.

You see the word INTENTION really fits in with Aspire.

Intention – aim/plan.

So I have to have a goal and a plan (to achieve that goal)

But … to me there was something missing.  Another word.  The word …. with   –  it may be the smallest of the 3 words, but I think it is the most important.

Withpreposition

  1. accompanied by (another person or thing).

“a nice steak with a bottle of red wine”

having or possessing (something).

“a flower-sprigged blouse with a white collar”

 

You see you can ASPIRE/have a goal, and you can have INTENTION/plan.  The WITH makes it happen.  BUT you need to the three words to make it work.  To Aspire WITH Intention.

Aspire WITHOUT Intention – nothing will happen.  But Aspire WITH Intention… then your goal with have an action/plan and together Aspire and Intention will happen.

Make sense?

To me it made absolutely perfect sense, and in fact has become my mantra.

Words to motivate you when it's overwhelming

I want to aspire, to achieve, I want to set goals, big and small and all sizes in between too.  I want to have goals that make my day run smoother, goals that tell me it’s time to relax and enjoy the day, life, my family, I want goals and dreams of getting my newest escapade or project off the ground (and completed).  For example, when I have blogged before it has been solely about decorating or organizing, but came to realize I wanted it to be more than that.  I want to inspire others (and myself along the way) to create a home they love and bring joy to their families and nourish them too.

But I need the WITH.

With Intention… with a plan, with a target, with a routine, with joy, and with happiness, with pleasure, with my family, with baby steps I will move toward by goals with intentional action. And you can too.

It really all made sense to me, and is in my little world rather profound and exciting.

So let’s motivate you.

Words to motivate you when it's overwhelming
Photo – thehomestylecollective.co.nz

Grab a pen and paper, heck why not even your prettiest notebook, and make this your book of aspirations with intentions. and let’s get writing.

So my question to you is –

What do you ASPIRE TO?

Is it to finish a project at home, to start a project, to save for a project?  Is it to clear out the garage once and for all, to create routines for yourself, to find time for yourself and your hobbies, or just to BE.

It can be anything, and everything.  That’s the beauty of it.

Come on, write those dreams down.  Maybe even write each dream on a separate page. Give them space to breathe and expand and blossom.

 

Next… take each aspiration, each goal, and break it down to baby steps, you know those steps that sometimes you think are insurmountable, but break them down to tiny, tiny steps so that your dream and aspiration doesn’t seem overwhelming.

You are creating words that motivate you when it’s overwhelming

Words to motivate you when it's overwhelming

Your aspiration may be something as simple as having a family board game night once a week in the winter months.  (it is a goal)

With Intention (with a plan, that aspiration will go ahead)

So where are you going to have your board game?

What games will you play?

Do you have the games?

Dig them out of storage, check you have all the pieces/parts of the game.

Do you need food/drinks etc.?

Set the date with family.

See… easy steps.  Your dream was to have a game night.  You planned (action/intention) what you would play, searched out the games, planned the food, and hey you could even send fun invites to the family and surprise them.

 

You have DREAMED IT, PLANNED IT

You ASIRED WITH INTENTION

YOU HAD A GOAL, A PLAN AND WITH THOSE TWO WORDS YOUR ASPIRATION WAS SUCCESSFUL.

 

Or it could be something of bigger proportions, clearing out that tip of a garage – (yes I absolutely have one of those right at this moment, a dream of a clean space is one of my aspirations with which I need definite intention.

 

So dream of how you want that garage to look – that’s your aspiration

Now write down those baby steps – sort stuff into toss/donate/keep/sell piles etc.  You know the drill and  with INTENTION, i.e. taking the steps necessary you can get it done.

 

Well done, you’ve aspired and created a list of intention/action and now you can go forth and fulfil that dream.

What do you aspire to?  Big or small, whatever it is, it’s worth doing, worth aspiring with intention.

Let me know in the comments below and how you’re breaking the task down.

 

Wishing you a wonderful day and week with whatever plans you have and that they bring you joy.

 

Happy days

Jane